Confidence vs Arrogance
In this episode, Joshua learns that there is no such thing as too much confidence. Arrogant people are put in the same category as selfish or rude people. True leadership comes from being sure of where your going and letting others know about it.
Too Much Confidence
Today, I’m going to share with you a quick lesson I learned about confidence. Are you ready?
There is no such thing as too much confidence.
Did you get that? You want it slower this time? There is NO such thing as too much confidence.
We all know that your success has a lot to do with your level of self-assuredness, self-confidence.
The more positive and definite you sound like with your decisions, the more likely other people are going to follow your leadership. You want to attract more people to your line of thinking, no matter what industry you are in. Bigger leader = more followers = more success!
Confidence is attractive.
And the higher your confidence, the more attractive you become to others. Simple, right?
But Joshua, too much confidence comes across as cocky and arrogant!
No. There’s no threshold. There’s no line you cross that makes you all of a sudden become cocky.
Cockiness and arrogance come on a different scale. They come from a lack of consideration for others. They are on the same scale as rudeness and selfishness. Cockiness and arrogance come out when your actions and decisions only benefit you don’t reflect consideration for the other person’s thoughts or feelings.
As long as you’re a genuine, authentic human being who thinks about the world around you when you make decisions, you have no danger of EVER being too confident in those decisions or in yourself.
What do you do to boost your self-confidence? How do you work on being sure of your decisions? Share with us in the comments below.
Success secrets from John Wesley quotes
While I don’t find myself in a church on a regular basis, I do see great value in learning from religious leaders. John Wesley’s writings are no exception. Wesley lived during Revolutionary War times in both England and America. He founded a very analytical and studious movement in Christianity called Methodism.
The Methodist approach to religion reminds me of many of today’s agnostics. The basic, watered down premise is to accept no dogma blindly, but instead for each person to study and interpret all writings for himself.
John Wesley Quotes
The danger in such a thoughtful approach to faith is similar to a flaw I have noticed in myself and many of my clients. Many of today’s entrepreneurs experience “paralysis by analysis.”
“Beware you be not swallowed up in books! An ounce of love is worth a pound of knowledge.” –John Wesley, 1768
John Wesley writes that while knowledge is important, it’s the love that really makes a difference in the world. Beware of sitting back and spending your whole life making “perfect decisions” and failing to take action. There is no such thing as a perfect plan. Get out into the world now and spread your love.
On the other hand, John Wesley wrote not to run your life with your head down:
“Though I am always in haste, I am never in a hurry.” –John Wesley, 1777
True leaders develop the ability to make informed, efficient judgments quickly. This is one of the keys to success. Surround yourself with wise advisers, trust their opinions, but never hurry through any decisions to the point that you forget to think for yourself.
John Wesley measured success differently than many others of his time (and many people of today as well). Wesley felt that success is measured not by the number of possessions that one can amass, but by the amount of positive that that he can implement.
“Having first, gained all you can, and secondly, saved all you can, then give all you can.” –John Wesley, Sermon 50
This is commonly paraphrased “Earn all you can. Save all you can. Give all you can.” In order to be a good steward of the resources we have been given, we must do our best to produce more than we consume. Then, with the bounty that we have leftover, we must help others. We must strive to turn our world to paradise on earth.
If the teachings of John Wesley resonate with you, then you have a lot in common with Joshua Bevan.
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Act at the Speed of Instruction
In this episode, Joshua Bevan learns from a successful Real Estate investor that the best way to be successful is to act at the speed of instruction. If you want to Earn all you can and save all you can so you can give all you can, you must open the shrink wrap of those seminar education systems and start applying what you learn.
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A few days ago Ryan brought up a great point about the value of education. It sparked an awesome discussion about those of us who go to a seminar and buy an educational product and then take it home and do nothing with it.
We are shelling out big bucks at the seminar and it just sits there in the – I love the term that someone said – the “shelf help” section of our book case.
So some people say that knowledge is power. But I like to think of it as only
Applied Knowledge is Power.
Let me tell you about a friend of mine. My friend J has a motto. Almost a mantra. J says, “Act at the speed of instruction.”
And J doesn’t just say it, he lives it.
I admire J very much. He is not only a great business man and real estate investor. But I also admire him as a kind, giving family man.
Now, I tagged J in this video, but I know he’s not going to respond right now because, at this very moment, he is accomplishing another page in his dream book.
Congratulations! Way to go, buddy!
Now a few years ago, J was in a tough spot, to put it mildly. To respect his privacy, I’m not going to get into the details, but let me just say that major health issues led to major financial issues. To the point that J was selling his personal positions on ebay just to put food on the table for his family.
Now J worked his butt off just to try to find the investment for a Real Estate Investor Education program.
By the way, this system that J uses is, in my opinion, THE Real Estate education that everyone needs. If you want the info, private message me and I’ll get it to you.
So the key that J implements that I personally am learning from him is: every time he learns something, he applies it immediately.
When he is told that a successful investor has many Real Estate agent contacts, he is on the phone calling up agents. When an instructor teaches him how to analyze a property for a short sale, he has a hundred spreadsheets filled out by the end of the day.
Now really awesome thing is, it works. In fact, it has worked so well for J. that in a few short years, he has grown his business, net worth, passive income, and accomplished so many pages in his dream book that he is going to need another book to start dreaming even bigger.
So that’s the key. That’s what I learn from J. Act at the speed of instruction.
Making an investment in yourself, an investment in your future is awesome. But for heaven’s sake, take it out of the shrink wrap. This is not a comic book action figure that keeps its value if it’s never opened.
That’s the big deal. So I know that you’ve figured out who you want to be and what you need to learn. So find someone who can help you gain that knowledge…
APPLY it. Start doing it.
Tell us all what you are looking to learn in the comments below, and, as a group, we can help you connect with the right person. I’ll see you later. Have more fun.
Why are we so afraid to be embarrassed?
In this episode Joshua Bevan learns from a group of evolutionary psychologists why fear and stress is a reflex when we are presented with an embarrassing situation.
If you liked that video, check out another video where I learn to face my irrational fears.
Why does embarrassment cause stress?
Hey, Joshua Bevan here, learning how to earn all I can, save all I can, so I can give all I can.
Fear.
I read an article written by a group of evolutionary psychologists that really helped me put some of my fears into perspective.
We all know about the Fight or Flight response, right? It was developed over time to help me when I’m in physical danger. When the lion starts charging me, I’ve got to gear my body up to protect myself.
I’ve got to choose between pulling out my spear and killing the lion, or running as fast as I can and hoping to get away.
That makes sense…but here’s the really interesting part:
In the world I live in, I’m not presented with physical threats very often. My life is rarely in that kind of danger. Yet my body still gears up. I get that stress response.
My heart starts racing, pupils dilate, heavy breathing, digestion shuts down.
But all of this happens when I’m “just” about to talk to a new person or stand on stage in front of many people. There’s no physical danger here. The worst thing that can happen is that I can embarrass myself.
Embarrassment? So what? What does my tribal hunter/gathering ancestor care about embarrassment?
Ah-ha! But he does! You see back, then my survival is all based within the tribe. If I did something that was socially unacceptable, the rest of the tribe would punish me.
Watch. Say I was foolish enough to put on my best loincloth and seduce the chief’s woman. We sneak off and make passionate love on the bear skin rug.
Now when the chief walks into the wig-wam, he’s going to be pissed. He and all of his homeboys are going to beat me up and leave me in the jungle- all alone.
I’m all alone in the jungle. I’m not going to survive. My genes aren’t going to be passed on…
Now let’s take it a step further. What if the whole tribe is trying to figure out where to find the best hunting area.
I stand up in front of everyone and tell them my idea. But they all think my speech was lame and my idea sucks. They all laugh, and I’m embarrassed.
If I present embarrassing ideas over and over again, the tribe won’t accept me anymore. They will leave me alone to die.
To our ancestors, embarrassment equals death.
But do us, it doesn’t. That’s what we have to remember. In the embarrassing moment, I know it feels like you’re facing death.
But when it’s over, we can all look bath and laugh. Tell me about your most embarrassing moment, one where you thought you were facing death. Leave a comment below or post a message on Facebook.
I’ll see you later, have more fun!
Stop Settling for Average
Joshua Bevan shows how society is failing our youth. True talent is squandered in the quest for mediocrity.
The message: Stop Being Average! Work on improving the areas in which you excel. Others will help you in your weak areas.
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Hi there, this is Joshua Bevan learning how to earn all I can save all I can so I can give all I can. Something came up yesterday with a HUGE life lesson in it, and I had to get out the camera and tell you the story today.
One of the parts that I love about owning my own business is that I write my own schedule and can make the time to give back to the world in the way I want. One thing I really enjoy is volunteering as a director at a summer camp. I started as a counselor and loved it so much that I now train young adults how to be awesome counselors as well; how to truly make a positive impact on the lives of the campers. So last night while we were at a fundraising event…
If you have a few dollars extra to make a tax deductible donation that would go a loooong way to improving the lives of local youth, send me a personal message or email and I’ll put you in touch with the right people. Thank you!
…So last night, we were at a fundraising event, and I was chatting with one of my best counselors. I’m not going to use her real name on here because I don’t want to embarrass her, but we’ll call her Nicole.
Nicole is a junior in high school. She is a wonderful writer. I’ve been lucky enough to read some of her short stories, and it blows me away, how good they are!
Now, Nicole also happens to be a good student. She works hard to earn good grades in all of her classes. This particular night, she was stressed out over an upcoming history test. She was having trouble memorizing all of the names and dates.
This got me thinking. Here’s a girl who has a great creative writing talent – and writing is something she LOVES. With the proper encouragement, I have no doubt that she will become one of the great writers of our time.
But our society is failing her.
Instead of nurturing and developing the talents that each individual excels with, our system is designed to encourage each individual to focus on being average, across the board.
I’m going to tell you what I told Nicole last night:
Stop being average!
You are allowed to be great!
I’m giving you permission right now to stop focusing on improving your weaknesses. If you’re particularly good at memorizing facts, that’s ok. If not, that’s ok too, because there are other people whose strengths lie in your areas of weakness. You will find them, and help each other succeed.
But for now, the best thing you can do is focus on your strengths. What are you good at? What do you LOVE to do?
And just like you now have permission to have weaknesses, I now also give you permission to love your strengths.
Put most of your focus into working on those strengths. Love doing it! Know that there is always room for improvement. You can always learn something from each new person that you meet.
That is how you become GREAT!
How are you working on becoming great? What are your talents? What do you love?
Tell me and the rest of the community about it. Leave a comment below and we’ll help each other succeed.
Top 8 Ways to Compliment Someone You Don’t Like
One of the keys to success is keeping a positive attitude. With a positive attitude, we will encounter more opportunities for growth. This is because 1) we will be more open and see more of the paths in front of us, and 2) we actually attract more positive opportunities to ourselves.
Paying someone a compliment may turn an enemy into a friend
The hard part is keeping that positive outlook the majority of the time. Even when things look grim. Even when interacting with negative people. We all must interact with people who we don’t like, sometimes even on a daily basis. It can be quite challenging to avoid slipping into a negative view point after or even during one of those encounters.
If You Don’t Have Anything Nice to Say, Think of Something.
I find that the best way to defuse one of those meetings and keep it moving in a productive direction is to deliver a genuine compliment, especially at the beginning of the conversation. If you start off on a positive note, there is a much higher chance that it will stay positive.
Finding a genuine compliment, especially about someone who you already know you don’t like, can be very difficult. The compliment needs to be true and heartfelt. Whatever you do, DO NOT LIE. The other person will see right through the lie and you will be worse off than when you started.
How to Fake a Compliment Find an Honest Compliment
- Reframe a Negative. Instead of focusing on how anal retentive your boss is when he scrutinizes your every move, try reframing. Tell him, “It’s very thorough of you to always pick up on tiny details.”
- Focus on an Accessory. Even people with horrible taste are bound to pick up something nice. Try, “I really like your tie,” or, “Those are beautiful earrings you’re wearing.”
- Notice Changes. Sometimes general observations, with the proper vocal inflections, can be taken as compliments. While smiling, you can remark, “You got a haircut!”
- The Clothes Make the Man. Even though a fashion designer dreamed up that outfit and a clothing manufacturer did all of the sewing, your “friend” still put in the work of choosing and purchasing it. That should count for something, right?
- The Power of Suggestion. Beginning a conversation with, “You sound like you’re in a cheerful mood this morning! Did you have a good weekend?” may help to change the tone from neutral to good. Time this one properly, though, because it may also backfire and change the tone from bad to worse.
- Be Generic. “I admire your effort!” If you have trouble finding a quality compliment about your “friend” that you like, try complimenting him about a quality you typically like in ALL people.
- Think Like a Little League Coach. In youth sports, everyone gets a trophy simply for participating. “Thank you for coming to the meeting,” or “I appreciate that you were my partner on this project.”
- Above All Else – Be Sincere. Whatever you do, whether it is one of the above suggestions or another way you find to creatively compliment someone, make sure that the compliment is an honest one.
As long as you are genuine and authentic with what you are saying, the other person will be able to read it. Even the most negative people are boosted up by true and honest compliments. Use this knowledge to help propel yourself forward in your success.
If you plan to use any of these tips, tell us how in the comment section below.
Unconditional Positivity
Everyone in this society has the same opportunity for success. Successful people win more because they seize more of these opportunities. When you keep a positive focus, more of these opportunities are apparent to you. When you see more, you can seize more.
How do I stay focused on the opportunities in front of me?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Broke people hang out with broke people. Successful people hang out with POSITIVE people. That’s one of the biggest keys, hands down.
How do I attract more positive people in my life?
Be a positive person! Like attracts like, so the more positive your attitude is, the easier it will be for you to connect with other positive people. Your attitude comes out in the way that you present yourself. People can tell when you’re faking a smile.
Life is hard. How do I make my whole body smile?
You know all about unconditional love: when you love someone no matter what. You can be really mad at her for something but you still love her. The same idea surrounds unconditional positivity. No matter what is happening around you, work on maintaining that positive focus. It’s not easy, especially when nothing seems to be going your way, but your attitude will help you climb out of that rut.
- Count your blessings. Think of all the things that are great in your life. Start with the fact that you are alive.
- Help someone else. Nothing else can uplift your spirits more than bringing joy to someone else. Find a way to volunteer your time to something that you are passionate about.
- Do an activity that you love. If it’s possible, stop whatever you are doing and take time to go surfing, or play guitar, or read a book. Whatever makes you smile, go do it.
- Talk to a mentor. It’s important to connect with mentors that have traveled the paths that you are on. Chances are, they have experienced the same speed bumps that you are hitting. They will have a good perspective of the other side to share with you.
- Reaffirm your goals. Take out your dream book or goal board or fantasy wall and bask in where you are headed. Know that you dreamed it up, so you have the power to make it happen. Before you put your book away, take action on the next step (even if it’s a baby step!) toward making one of those goals happen.
I hope to be one of the positive people with which you surround yourself. Tell me how I can help you achieve your dreams. Leave a comment in the box below.
Successful People are Always Moving Forward
Look at any successful person that you know. Chances are, he is not sitting still. He is driving from one office to another, running from one lunch meeting to the next, checking in on one factory or the other. Even if he is only taking phone calls, he’s pacing the hallway the whole time. Successful people move. And most of them move quickly.
Now, from an outside perspective, this motion may seem random. It may look like he is all over the map. But highly successful individuals possess a rather sharp focus. While they may appear random, every move is highly calculated to bring him closer to his goals.
How Do I Obtain the Success I’m After?
“This is good news,” you say, “because I’m always fidgeting. That means I’m on my way to success!” Maybe. There are a few key steps to make sure that you get there.
- Know Where You Are Headed. In order to achieve anything, you must first know what it is. Sit down and plan out your goals on a regular basis.
- Take Action. Always stay light on your feet. Newton’s First Law applies to everything: if you are always in motion, it’s easier to stay in motion. Then, direct that motion towards your goals.
- Move Closer Every Day. Make it a point to move a little closer to your goal every day. Know what the next step is and take it. If you can’t take a full step, take half a step.
Focus on where you are going in order to be successful
The trick is to do the same tasks that a highly successful person in your field does, every day. If you need help figuring out who you want to be, leave some comments. I’ll be glad to help.
If you need a swift kick in the pants to get it moving, tell us about that also. We’ll all be happy to oblige.
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How to Promote Your Business with a Blog
Making money on the internet can seem like a daunting task, especially for someone who has no experience on the web. In this episode, Joshua Bevan teaches how easy it can be to promote your business with a blog. In less than 3 ½ minutes, he will post a simple blog entry that will bring new traffic to your brick and mortar business. This system will also help turn existing customers into raving fans. Joshua Bevan will show you how to help your existing customers feel awesome about telling all of their friends about YOUR business, spreading good will and ultimately making you more money.
This guide assumes that you already have your blog and website set up. If not, first watch the How To Set Up Your WordPress Blog video. If you need help or have any questions, feel free to contact us.
How to Set Up a Blog for Your Business
Whether we like it or not, the internet is a hugely important part of public relations and marketing for any business. The following is a bare bones, basic guide of how to get your business online with a blog.
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Pick a domain name and register it.
The name of your domain is very important. Many domain names are already reserved, so you may have to choose a variation of your company’s name. You will need to go to a domain registrar to search and register your name. One of the best deals in town comes from Go Daddy .
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Find a Host.
You will need to settle on a provider to host your site. Make sure that the package you choose will allow access to a “MySQL” database. Host Gator has great packages designed for small businesses like their Unlimited Hosting plan.
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Install WordPress.
This is where it starts to get a little more technical – but nothing you can’t handle, right? WordPress published their super simple five minute installation process on their website.
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Install a Theme.
This step gets much easier again. You will want your website’s look to fit the feel of your business. A free theme from one of the thousands out there will do. (JoshuaBevan.com uses a free theme called Dojuniko from the guys at Hulozila.) Simply search for one on your WordPress DashBoard and install it.
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Install Plug-Ins.
There are thousands of PlugIns that add functionality to your WordPress blog. You can experiment and find the ones you like. For a great place to start, read Top 20 Plug-ins to Install on Your WordPress Blog.
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Write Your First Post.
No better time than now to start promoting your business with a blog post. Check out this video for a little more detail on how easy it is.
I hope this step by step process gives you a good starting point to setting up a blog for your business. If you need more help, leave a question in the comments below, or contact us directly on the Contact Page .
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While building his businesses from the ground up, Joshua Bevan sought out some of the best mentorship. He has learned that the path to success is difficult and simple at the same time. Joshua has committed his life to learning how to, “Earn all you can. Save all you can. Give all you can.” Through videos, blogs and speaking events, he will pass that knowledge forward.
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